Relationships

“Your presentation gave me a whole new perspective to morning and night people. I have always described myself as a morning person and could really not understand that a person who “claims to be a night person” couldn’t motivate themselves to get up in the morning. I was married to a man for 20 plus years who is very much a night person. He could sleep through the loudest alarms and would only “wake-up” when he could no longer put off getting up; or so I thought. Your presentation (and book) would have been more timely if I had read it before going into the marriage because it would have provided me with the knowledge that people do have different clocks. Unfortunately, there were several heated discussions. I would tell him that I was not his mother, that he was a grown man responsible for himself and on and on. Never in my wildest imagination did I believe what he told me was true — that he was a night person and I was a morning person and this is not “learned behaviours”. While this issue was not the cause of our break-up, I would have probably been a whole hec of a lot more understanding and worked with him instead of continually battling with him about his sleeping habits.”
Darlene, Canada

“I like to get nine or 10 hours of sleep at night, and I make sure I get to bed early enough to do so. My husband, on the other hand, is a night owl. I think married people should go to bed together and wake up together. It bothers me a lot that my husband would prefer to sleep in front of the TV instead of with me.”

From an Anne Lander’s column (Date unknown)

‘My husband’s sleeping habits are driving me crazy. He can’t keep his eyes open past ten p.m. If we’re watching TV he dozes off. If we’re out with friends, he complains so much about how tired he is that I give in and go home.  what really makes me angry is when (he) tells me to gou out alone, with my friends. That’s no solution – I want to be with him!”

From an advise column (Woman’s World 11/8/94)

There are only two kinds of people in the world; perky people in the morning and grumpy people in the morning. Inevitably and invariably, these two kinds of people usually get married. What they don’t know is that the thing that makes a grumpy person in the morning grumpiest is a perky person in the morning.  (source unknown)